Peter grew up at 1502 Burrstone Rd. In Utica, NY, with his Franco-German and Irish-German parents and attended Utica schools. Peter was the youngest of seven brothers and sisters. As a teenager, Peter spent a lot of time working for his two brothers-in-law, who were also business owners and entrepreneurs.

In fact, one of his brothers-in-law was one of the early pioneers in the health food industry. Remember also that this was a time when health food stores and vendors were not yet part of the mainstream of American life and business. This was an extremely innovative idea, and in some ways, it is exactly why Peter Corn succeeded in the industry. It got it right almost at the right time, when it was new enough that there weren’t many competitors, but not so soon that people were ready for a decade. This was Peter’s first exposure to entrepreneurship.

After working in the new health food industry with his brother-in-law in the 1970s, Peter finally spun off his own business, Peter’s Cornucopia in 1985, in the Village of New Hartford in the building that now occupies Georgio’s restaurant. At roughly 1,000 square feet, with a tight budget of a small loan, a little savings, and a lot of hope, Peter launched his fledgling business.

Peter explained that much of their success is due to the excellent locations, knowledge of the industry, growth by leaps and bounds, passion for this industry and the appearance of their stores. Many times, a business will spend many years building a business before making a profit. Peter’s new business only spent about two years in this mode, but even then they were on the mend and were slowly gaining a following.

Also, as an indication of its growth by leaps and bounds, in addition to purchasing inventory on demand, it kept overhead as low as possible. Peter is the positive type of person, but also down to earth. Plan for the worst while expecting the best.

When asked what else helped him become a successful entrepreneur, he explained that it is a smooth mix between presentation combined with a great product. Peter said, “(The) appearance (of a business) means a lot, but it’s also about the community and how you support the community that drives the business forward.”

Peter continues to support local businesses when he finds one that fits his theme, industry and corporate mission. Two of these local businesses are Whirled Peas, by Denise Sachs-Michalanie of New Hartford, and Sammy and Annie Foods, by Christopher Giruzzi of Barneveld. Both businesses will be in a future CyberVillage SpotLight. Others include Toma’s, Owen’s Farm, Chesterfields, Juanita’s Soul Classics, Heidelberg, and Daniele’s Foods.

Peter explains that its evolution was slow and deliberate, but always based on momentum. He didn’t try to rush. He grew the business in the existing office space until it was ready to burst. Only then would it justify the cost of expanding into a new space. This kept momentum moving forward while overheads were kept as low as possible. Peter moved out of the first location after about six years, just down the street at 52 Genesee Street, also in the hamlet of New Hartford. It then grew to 1,800 square feet, but Peter’s Cornucopia was still moving forward and profitable.

A few years later, they expanded to the entire ground floor of approximately 2,500 square feet. Then they could offer a stand up juice bar.

In 2004, once again to burst, it was time to move again. With an office and warehouse in a basement, and Village parking becoming a problem, Peter moved into the New Hartford Mall. Now with 10,300 square feet of premium real estate, Peter has his own office, a real inventory area, the natural food store, a juice bar and a very nice cafeteria with a WI-FI access point. An important note is that the juice bar uses all real fruit and organic juices. This is also one of those little details that Peter thinks helped him grow the business. Quality ingredients are very important to your regular customers. The general population is unaware of the fact that many juice bars use sweeteners and syrups rather than just fruits.

Peter spent a lot of time using local friends / consultants, such as Carl Cuccaro, to ensure that the appearance of the new Peter’s Cornucopia at the New Hartford Mall maintained its natural, welcoming and quality feel. The way Peter described the look he didn’t want was like a grocery store with checkout counters. The store resembles popular bookstores with a cozy atmosphere and a central area / desk where friendly people visit.

We asked Peter what the future holds for his industry and the overall economy. Peter plans to stay in his family business environment and does not see himself retiring. He is very happy with his current location, but if there was an expansion in the future, it would probably be in a larger city while keeping his headquarters in Utica, NY. Peter feels that he has accomplished what he set out to do, with a large and successful store in a great location.

Peter’s view of the economy is that either we hit rock bottom or we are close to it. Peter admits that it may still be a while before confidence returns, but is confident that it will. Peter is not sure that rescuing the big failed companies, while ignoring the small ones, ready to grow, is the best strategy.

No matter which president you voted for, Republican or Democrat, he believes we went in the wrong direction, but we will still recover as a nation, we always do. Peter explained: “Despite claims that increased public spending will accelerate economic recovery, I don’t think so. It will take more time with the government involved, but we will recover.”

Your child seems to have the right skills for gymnastics or has expressed a desire to go to gymnastics classes. Is gymnastics suitable for children or is it a purely female sport? This article explores the pros and cons of practicing gymnastics as a child. First, we will consider the pros.

1. Gymnastics creates incredible core body strength. You just have to look at the physiques of men competing on the rings in any major gymnastics competition to see that male gymnasts have muscles other men can only dream of!
2. Doing gymnastics can improve coordination and body control. This is useful for all sports, so gymnastics can be a stepping stone to perform other sports at a high level.
3. Urban street dancing is one of the latest youth trends and is regularly seen on our televisions. Street dance groups are becoming famous and street dancing takes place around all the pop ‘in’ acts. Therefore, it is natural that boys aspire to become street dancers. Gymnastics is an essential part of street dance with many movements that require gymnastic skills, such as the plank which is a semi-horizontal handstand.
4. Since the ratio of boys to girls is likely to be very much in favor of boys, gymnastics classes can be a great way to find girlfriends with similar interests.
5. Gymnastics is a must for anyone thinking of becoming a stuntman. Doing stunts can be an exciting career, with participation in television and movies in different parts of the world.
6. Gymnastics is extremely important to anyone considering a career on stage or in the performing arts. Cirque de Soleil is full of talented gymnasts who push the boundaries of gymnastics with their death-defying feats and artistic performances. The fame and success of Cirque de Soleil show how popular gymnastics is, even outside of traditional competition-based training.
7. The popularity of gymnastics acts at talent shows like ‘America’s Got Talent’ and ‘Britain’s Got Talent’ shows just how useful it is to play the sport. In fact, a gymnastics act titled “Spellbound” won the 2010 Britain’s Got Talent series. Interestingly, the company has more boys than girls.
8. In the US, some colleges offer gymnastics scholarships that could help tremendously with the high costs of earning a college degree. With fewer men doing gymnastics, men would have an advantage over women to get one of these scholarships.

So what are the downsides to enrolling your child in gym class?

1. Your kid might be the only kid in gym class. Don’t assume that this will automatically be the case. You will only find out by going to one of the classes yourself to see it or by contacting the gym trainer by phone or email. You can request that your son do a free tasting to see if he likes it and if he feels comfortable if there are not many other boys. If your child is reluctant to go alone, a gymnastics-related gift might cheer him up, such as a handguard, a keychain, or some gymnastics jewelry. Gymnastics jewelry comes in different types of metals, such as silver and gold. Be careful with gym jewelry made of base metals, as they can cause skin allergies. Alternatively, your child could bring a friend with him, if he has someone suitable. Talk to the parents of your child’s friends to see if any of his friends might be interested in joining him.
2. Your child could be teased at school. However, once you demonstrate how you can do backflips and hand jumps, your classmates will be in awe! Alternatively, your child could take street dance classes at the same time and argue that he does gymnastics to improve his street dance. Everybody knows that street dancers are cool and they get respect!
3. Your son may not have time for more traditional men’s sports, such as soccer and rugby. It is true that no one can do everything, so you always have to choose which hobbies to pursue. However, it is possible for your child to play traditional sports at school and therefore be able to use his free time for more specialized sports, such as gymnastics.
4. Some parents may be concerned that doing gymnastics may make their child too feminine. However, men’s gymnastics has different disciplines than women’s gymnastics. The apparatus of men’s gymnastics is floor, jump, parallel bars, high bar, rings and pommel horse. Women have 4 devices: floor, vault, beam and bars. However, even where women and men intersect, namely on Floor and Vault, the disciplines are different. The women’s floor routine is done to music and is generally performed in a ballet style. The men’s floor routine is not performed with music and is done in a masculine style. The vault is also different in that the horse is positioned horizontally for women and longitudinally for men.

To conclude, the advantages of children doing gymnastics significantly outweigh any disadvantages. Parents should not stop placing their children in gym class, but should embrace their talents. Gymnastics is useful in a variety of different fields and can make a child stand out as “cool.”

We must create our own meaning and take responsibility for ourselves. With that said. I start this article: Today I was having an early morning conversation with my mother about past pain and trauma in my childhood. Although it was mostly one-sided, and I was letting it go completely once and for all, I realized that if so, it’s up to me. Especially when I seriously quote luminaries like Calvin Coolidge (on persistence) and Mark Spitz (on work ethic) almost all the time, now. Think about it, nothing replaces perseverance and a great work ethic, not even “natural temper” or “good looks to help you get ahead.” Don’t just read what I’m saying, listen to what I’m saying, especially “those who have it all on a silver platter, easy” who need a dose of this lesson here.

Sometimes I believe that the true “easy way” comes to the person who is willing to do the hardest things in the best genuine and most meticulous way possible, with every detail and honesty taken care of in every way. On the other hand, the really difficult path comes to those “who have it too easy without fully understanding what they have until after they have misused it.” I took the genuinely real “easy way” as the first example, and that way seems “silly” sometimes to the best and worst of us until it’s “too late”, “after the fact” and all is said and done, Results are accounted for and realities are counted.

A life with meaning and responsibility is always more difficult than going through everything, but I can tell you that it is worth it in every way for anyone who lives it fully and without wanting that “easy way”, even sometimes. What do you think Friedrich Nietzsche really tried to say by “The noble soul has reverence for itself”? A truly noble soul no he wants any part of the “easy dishonesty” and lives for what is real and really good instead of what “looks good.” The reality to be conquered must be genuinely obeyed, even avionics when it comes to genuine airplane flight. Well, I say that life is like that, and that ultimately it cannot be faked, even if apparently and temporarily “we get away with pretending for a while.” So, start thinking: in reality, there is nothing behind to hide. There is definitely nothing to pretend, and reality always catches up with us ultimately. If you do the right thing, there is nothing to worry about. If you do the wrong thing, it will finally catch up with you. Final tip in this article: The only ultimate cheat is in the mirror, and our only best friend, if we do the right thing, is in the mirror.

Should you encourage your child to play dangerous sports with the goal of becoming a professional athlete and making a ton of money? From the song or depends on the child, parent, talent, motive and opportunity. The answer is a resounding “no” if you ask this father of four. I will explain more of my rationality later. For starters, emptor warning: sports, like other businesses, have exploding bellies that few see or want to see. Being proactive is prudent because advice given after an injury is equivalent to medicine after death.

There are functional skills that can be acquired by practicing various sports: teamwork, perseverance, determination, winning and resilient habits. Also, playing sports can be beneficial for your overall health.

Obesity is a global health problem with known consequences. Some of these consequences are high blood pressure, type II diabetes, heart disease, sleep apnea, joint diseases, various cancers, to name a few. But do not tell many Nigerians (in particular and Africans in general) who believe that being fat is something glorious, a symbol of status, a proof of the good life and wealth. Performing physical activities throughout life are worthy habits that promote both quantity and quality of life, according to health experts.

However, there is a big difference between playing sports recreationally and practicing them professionally. No sport is risk-free, but some are more dangerous than others. The costs of admission to the professional athletes club can be too high; Frankly, it may not be worth it.

When I was 20 I liked to watch boxing. The fight between Sugar Ray and Thomas “Hitman” Hearns II comes to mind. Marvin Hagler, Larry Holmes, Michael Spinks, Mike Tyson, George Foreman’s Second Coming were my favorites. I watched those fights every time I got the chance. At a 1987 Pay-View event in Oakland, California, he was sitting near a former boxer. As we left the venue after the exciting fight, he made statements that stuck in my mind when a spectator complained about the millions the fighters made. He said, “these fighters will pay dearly for the rest of their lives for the blows they have received today.” He went on to say, “all the millions they made today will not be enough to heal a lifetime of pain and suffering.”

Looking back, his statements were quite prescient because little was known about the effects of concussions, blows to the head, performance-enhancing drugs, Parkinson’s disease, memory loss, and speech problems. Some of the sports we send our kids to play today are just as dangerous – don’t let the hype, money, fame, and medical advances fool us. Remember that beef came from a cow or, as the Igbo say, “Suya ahu si n’ahu nama”.

Seeing the huge money and fame in these sports, it was only a matter of time before Nigerian parents and / or our own children started chasing the pitfalls of these sports. Some may want to reap the obvious benefits without seeing the latent pitfalls. These parents and children should adhere to this Einstein quote: “learn the rules of the game [first]. And then you must play it better [on and off the court] than anyone else “.

I must dedicate a paragraph and pay tribute to the athletic heroes of Nigeria and indeed the world. Dick Tiger, Christian Okoye, Hakeem Olajuwon and today’s professional players have shown shining examples on and off the stage. They remain the beacon of all that is good about Nigeria and Nigerians. When was the last time you heard something negative about these heroes? Through their actions, they continue to varnish the image of our Motherland, even as corrupt politicians and members of 419 are bent on tarnishing its global image. Like grateful Nigerians everywhere, I salute these evergreen heroes.

Are these reasons compelling enough to allow your child to play dangerous sports?

I hope Nigerian parents, both at home and especially abroad, do not push their children into these sports to profit. Often times, we are people with a total tendency to make money at all costs. Some may want to dispel a myth and end up exposing themselves and their children to hidden dangers. According to a sports journalist, “People are skeptical about Nigerian players; they are soft, not tough enough and too polite.” That’s a loaded statement! Trying to “prove negative” can cost you dearly. You may remember Loyola Marymount basketball star Eric “Hank” Gathers, who died on the court in 1990 during a televised game. The youngster had a known heart condition, but continued to play without taking his medications, making him too sleepy to perform at the height of his star caliber.

All sports have inherent risks. As the Italians say, “ogni rosa ha le sue spine” or “every rose has its thorns”. I like to ride a bike. Many cyclists are injured and even die while riding a bicycle. Just 3 weeks ago here in Austin, Texas, a bicyclist pushing his damaged bicycle was killed by a distracted driver less than 10 miles from my residence. Did you know that female soccer players suffer the second highest number of concussions, after female soccer players? Go imagine that one.

However, some sports are like cigarettes: they are dangerous when practiced as prescribed. Some of the injuries are cumulative from a very young age (elementary and middle schools) and the ill effects are not fully felt until the game days are over.

The odds of reaching the pros are pretty infinitesimal. As a friend who played one of these sports professionally tells me, “People only see the few who successfully jumped to the other side of the ridge. But look down into the abyss to see the crowd that didn’t make it.” The few who make it to the professionals end up living painful lives after their injuries begin to manifest themselves and when their insurance benefits cease to exist. They quickly squander their earnings due to poor financial management skills. Like many Nigerians refuse to plan for retirement, these athletes think they will always have money. Those who help you waste your resources will not be there when you need them. Watching, if that, can only bury one after one has died, it will not sustain the living.

I am not recommending that you or your children avoid amateur or professional sports. I’m not pointing out any sports either. As I said, each rose has its thorns; no sport is risk-free. What I recommend is that you do your own research before exposing your family to any sport. If after all that you still feel that the sport is for your child and he or she has the wherewithal to become the one in a million winner, go for it. I wish the best to your family. Keep in mind that anything that glitters can be brass, not gold.

Ask yourself these questions:

How is it that very few descendants of professional players follow in the footsteps of their parents? Did the genes that propelled your parents to stardom all of a sudden “lose their way”?

Why don’t team owners, coaches, team doctors use their enormous influence to get their kids to play these obviously lucrative sports? Other businesses, including preachers, train their children in the family business, why not as dangerous sportsmen? Is it because the truth or, to paraphrase Ben Franklin, society writes injuries in dust and benefits in marble?

Is Sports The Only Way To Get College Scholarships? Academic scholarships are better than most athletic scholarships. The first graduates more students than the second. Reading will not give you the aforementioned injuries.

If you don’t know of a former professional player in the sport that your child might be interested in, search on Google or Facebook to find one to talk to. They are relatively easy to find and you will find them willing to help you. Listen with an open mind to what they tell you; do not take their comments as bitter comments from former players. That’s what I did years ago before my children came of age to play American popular sports. As a proactive step, I began to discourage my children from playing soccer. I was surprised when my high school son told me that he had been asked to audition for his school team.

My wife and our children were pleased for the first time at the news. I set out to dissuade him from playing soccer. When he refused to back down, I blessed him, but told him I would not go to any of the games. They said he was good at it. He convinced his mother to go to one of the games. I must inject here that she is in the medical field. After watching the game live and hearing the sounds of war … I mean the beating on the field that day, she came home to join me in dissuading our son from playing the sport. The sounds of the pounding were unlike anything she hears from soccer games on television. My response was that if she thought high school players hit hard, you can imagine how hard high school and college players hit, not to mention professional players. I couldn’t bear to watch my son play soccer, I just can’t. Call me chicken!

After that first year of soccer, ours announced to our delight that he was leaving the sport. I asked him why, he said that none of his team members were in his Advanced Placement classes, in fact most of them were not doing well in school, partly due to missing classes due to injuries and / or sports distractions. This is the case in Africa and elsewhere. Some excel in both sports and academia.

Thank goodness my son didn’t get hurt and his grades are still high. He spoke about the serious injuries other footballers suffered, how they were encouraged to eat and lift more weights to get bigger, stronger, hit harder and run faster. He spoke about using below-average equipment and the drive to play for college scholarships and career prospects. Academics weren’t a priority, practicing and winning games were! Ultimately, he said that he discovered that we wanted the best for him both now and in the long term. He realized that we did it with and out of love. And we can live with it!

Can’t decide whether to go to the beach or camp in the woods? Why not have the best of both worlds and plan a beach camping trip? More and more people are trying this fun activity as they both enjoy the beauty of the beach but still experience the fun of camping. For your next beach camping trip, consider these tips and tricks for an outdoor experience filled with fun and excitement.

Know the weather forecast

You’re going on this journey to enjoy the sun and the waves, so it’s obvious that your vacation will be ruined when it starts to rain heavily and continues for the duration of your trip. Before you go, make sure the forecast confirms that it will be bright and sunny. It is also important to keep track of the tides. While it is best to pitch your tent near the water, you don’t want the water to carry your things when the tide rises.

Get ready for the beach

Packing for a camping trip is easy because you already need to know what the essentials are. A tent, a sleeping bag, food and water, kitchen utensils, and other equipment are important. But since you’ll be staying close to the ocean, it’s crucial that you carry some beach-specific essentials as well. An important tool that you can add is a brush (don’t forget a dust pan!), This will help clean the sand from your tent. Another essential tool that is great to carry is a sand stake. While a tent would be easy to set up on land, it could be made much more complicated with sand. Use stakes to easily pitch your tent.

Bring sun protection

One thing that could ruin your trip is the glaring sun. Unlike camping in the woods, there will be zero to a few trees to shade you when you sleep on the shore. You would be lucky to find a spot that has shade all day, but you still need to come prepared. Bring a huge beach umbrella to protect yourself from the sun when the sun is shining. Don’t forget to pack a good sunscreen, sunglasses, and sun hats to protect your skin and yourself – no one wants to go through the hassle of sunburn that can even affect your trip!

You are sure to enjoy your beach camping vacation with your friends with these amazing beach camping tips!

The downhill lie is my introduction to the writing of Carl Hiassen. My beautiful and much more informed school teacher wife is already familiar with his writing through her Newberry award winning novel, Hoot.

Like many middle-aged dreamers, hoping that reading how to do something instead of actually doing it would give me that illusory “ union with the golf universe, ” I was browsing the sports section at a local bookstore and came across this one. seductive chronicle of a man in his fifties returning to golf.

This intriguing question got me hooked: “What does it possess in a man to return in middle age to a game in which he never excelled in his prime and in fact had caused him primarily failure, anguish, and exasperation?” There was an immediate connection that drew me inexorably into the Carl Hiassen universe.

What’s in the game of golf that would goad me to leave a perfectly comfortable recliner, a well-stocked refrigerator, and a climate-controlled men’s den to meet the challenges of a hot, bug-infested golf course that is immaculately groomed and perfectly designed to increase my risk of heart attack, stroke, and premeditated assault?

Once again, I identified with Hiassen when he writes: “Unfortunately, the most important fact about golf is as relaxing as a digital prostate exam: it is difficult …

When I decided to reconnect with the game, I had no illusions about being really good at it. I just wanted to be better at something in middle age than I was when I was young. “

Hiassen recounts his 577-day foray into his return to the world of golf beginning with the purchase of clubs: “After a few puzzled minutes, I confess that I have no idea what kind of clubs to buy.

However, my plan is to start cheap. Minimizing investment in golf equipment should make it easier not to take the game so seriously and, if necessary, allow for an honorable withdrawal. “

His return to golf takes the reader on a laugh-filled ride that concludes with a 45-hole tournament that he describes as: “No lighthearted romp for a lonely, neurotic, doubt-ridden idiot.”. His golf partner dismissed him as “A couple of bad nines, that’s all” What Hiassen says is like saying, “Don’t let an iceberg or two ruin the whole cruise.”

Hiassen sums up the temptation of golf in his entry on ‘day 577’ after the tournament is over. You are seeing your son Quinn:

“But today is a dazzling morning of marching, breezy and cloudless, and despite recent injuries from the tournament, it feels good to stand in the sun on the practice field, just watching.

For a second, I’m a kid again … and I can remember exactly how great it felt to hit one, really smash it, and then look back to see my father’s expression. “

My biggest complaint about The downhill lie I really have better things to do, but none of them are as fun as reading this book.

A fabulous life is all about having your eyes set on the cool hills of your life plan while standing to put a heel in the face of difference on the common life path. But, it is too simple to waste the perception of the goal and also get lost in daily difficulties and failures.

Including daily notes of your life goal in each day’s round can help you keep your place in your goals. Great reminders can add thoughts, praise, yoga, royal oaths, and daily inspirational smile quotes as well.

Inspirational quotes are typically sketchy, nonsensical thoughts that are worn out enough to understand your thoughts about their underlying meaning and the long promises and powers of your life. As an example, let’s take a look at President Franklin Roosevelt’s quote: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself – a nameless, irrational, and unjustified terror.” These words remained part of President Roosevelt’s first inaugural address on March 4, 1933, in the wisdom of the Great Depression. But is it important to read the online connection to understand the logic and use it in your life? Not only is the connection not required, but, in my opinion, it really is more difficult to focus the motivation on your own problems about worrying.

His concerns are not about the 1933 crisis, or World War II, which several people believe Roosevelt was leading into. Whatever your dread, it is inspiring to be told that fear, strangely vague anxiety about the unknown, is the true antagonist of being a happy and rich life.

As a further example, consider Helen Keller’s words: “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” Helen Keller won by staying blind and in hiding from the age of 19 months to become an author and civil activist. In that context, the date should be an additional part of “surprise”: that someone who has these difficulties can speak of an excellent life as a brave adventure. Although, as an inspiring smile quote to guide your personal life, Keller’s words, regardless of context, are a huge boost to adapt to the long-term view – all you have here to get you started.

There is often a fight over the beginning of an inspirational quote from a smile. For example, Martin Luther King Jr. may not have said, “Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole ladder.” Mark Twain, quite true, did not say: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you did not do than by the things you did do.” Does it make you get an inspiring smile, some important quotes, or inspirational briefs because the writer is unknown? For me, the advantage of inspirational smile quotes is often in the words and how I can use them in my personal life, preferably in the traditional context. I see Faith’s quote and Twenty Years quote as a couple of the most inspiring and motivating quotes that I should see, whoever their writers made.

Inspirational smile quotes can mean uplifting or motivating, pure or functional. Any of the common inspirational quotes, such as Faith’s quote credited to Martin Luther King Jr., as several of these points. To make a bigger impact on your life and your goals, try incorporating different types of inspirational quotes.

Sometimes I hear from spouses who are so upset that their cheating spouse not only shows no remorse and guilt, but is downright hateful and petty. This can leave the faithful spouse wondering what they have done to deserve this kind of treatment, especially since they were not the one who cheated.

I heard from a wife who said, “My husband cheated on me with a coworker. He only admitted it because I caught him. When I confronted him, he acted as if I had done something wrong. He acted as if I was the most deplorable person.” imaginable for spying on him, even though all the cheating signs were there. She did not let me. I think he is afraid that if he leaves, I will not give him access to the children and it will cost him a lot of money. But he is very rude and mean to me. You’d think a man who cheated would fall in love with himself from being sweet to inspire some forgiveness. But in reality it is the opposite. It is distant. He makes nasty comments about me like a snooper in a low voice. He implies that he cheated on me because my own behavior led him to do so. Sometimes, I want to answer that if I am such a horrible person, what is he doing? still married to me. But then I’m scared that I don’t want to know the answer to that question. I don’t understand why he’s acting so nasty. I have done nothing wrong. I think I am a good wife. Yes, I spied it. But he deserved it. Why is he acting this way? What can I do about it? “

There can be many reasons why unfaithful spouses will act less than kind to their spouse after being caught cheating. Most of the reasons are the result of some kind of defense mechanism or an attempt to justify deception. I will discuss more about this matter in the next article.

If your spouse admitted (even to themselves) that you are not at fault in any way, they would feel much more guilty: Very few unfaithful spouses want to admit their innocence (even to themselves). But very few people can cheat and not feel almost overwhelmed with guilt. Even when you know that your spouse is not perfect or there is no doubt that your marriage is seriously flawed, deep down in your heart you know that cheating is wrong. Cheating people often hear little voices in the back of their heads that make them feel so ashamed because the voice asks them how they could do this to someone who loves and trusts them.

One way to silence that voice is to try to make your spouse the bad guy. Because if you admit that your spouse is a decent, loyal, and loving person, then you must be an idiot to betray him in this way. So sometimes when he’s mean to you, this is his way of distancing himself. He wants to paint you as less than perfect. He wants to be mad at you. Because this makes it much easier for you to keep cheating.

He could be attacking because he wants to keep you at a distance as a defense mechanism: As difficult as it is to hear that little voice in your head when you are cheating, it is also terrible to have to look your spouse in the eye and face him once the ugly truth has come to light.

Often they don’t know what to do or say. And seeing you in so much pain and with so much disappointment written on your face is almost impossible to bear. The look in your eyes reminds them of what they’ve done again. So to avoid pain, they want you to keep your distance. One way to make sure you keep your distance is for them to be mean to you. They hope that, as a result, you won’t ask for all the details or make demands.

How to handle it when your spouse is distant or mean after being unfaithful: Even if you have begun to understand why your spouse might be acting the way you are, none of this makes your behavior correct. And sometimes if you don’t call them for this behavior, they might try to continue it. I think it’s better to comment on it rather than keep allowing it to happen.

So the next time he makes one of those sarcastic comments, you might consider stopping him and saying something like, “You think I don’t hear that? Your comments are hurtful and I can’t pretend otherwise. You act like I’ve done something wrong or that I’ve done something to hurt you when you know that’s not the case either. I can’t keep allowing you to treat me this way. You say you’re going to stay and you want to save our marriage. But we can’t do that if you continue to treat me this way. If I’ve done something to make you angry or to inspire your comments, then let’s talk right now. Otherwise, I don’t want to hear it. Nothing I’ve done justifies you cheating on me. That’s the problem we need to solve. So when you’re ready to talk about it, I will be willing to listen. Until then, I will not hear you belittle or criticize me when I have done nothing wrong. “

Sometimes this will be enough and he will realize that you are not going to let him get away with it. It is important that you do not pretend that you don’t care or allow him to continue. Because if you don’t counteract it, then you have no reason to stop. And you really can’t rebuild a healthy marriage if he can’t respect you enough to stop the onslaughts.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a pacifist who does not believe that violence solves anything. For all the years of my life, I have always been against gun ownership.

I look at young children who find their parents’ guns that should have been locked up, but left unattended, and shoot one of their siblings or one of their parents. I look at people with unruly tempers who get mad at their co-workers, family members, teachers, employers, politicians and shoot themselves, and blame the NRA for pushing gun sales so they can make a lot of money.

Homicides in this country caused by people looking for their weapon rather than having a rational discussion to resolve disputes keeps escalating, and all I see is bloodshed as a way of life for countless angry people.

Conservative Supreme Court Justice Warren Burger wrote: “Gun Lobby’s interpretation of the Second Amendment is one of the biggest scams, I repeat the word fraud, against the American people by special interest groups that I have ever seen. … The true purpose of the Second Amendment was to ensure that state armies – the militia – stood for the defense of the state. The very language of the Second Amendment refutes any argument that it was intended to guarantee all citizens a right unlimited to any type of weapon you want. “

So why am I sitting on the fence about gun ownership now, given the opposite that I’ve always been to them?

Perhaps it is because of a dream I had when we were involved in the ISIS form of justice, that is, beheadings, shootings, torture, etc., of people who did not share their religious beliefs.

In my dream, I began to see how many people in this country were going radical and demanding that we replace our justice system with Sharia law. And then I started to see waves of immigrants coming to this country torturing, shooting and beheading our unarmed citizens who just wanted to live in peace.

When I woke up, I was distraught and visibly shocked. I could still see armed radicals breaking into homes and businesses with their weapons and our own people unable to defend themselves.

If my dreams weren’t often prophetic, I would have looked for symbolic meaning, but this was so clear that I couldn’t dismiss it as something I needed to analyze.

So here I am sitting, still sitting on the fence over gun ownership. If I could be assured that criminal background checks would be done and that parents who left their guns unattended for their young children to find would face jail sentences, I might be more willing to side with the people they love. possess weapons.

But, so far, all I’ve seen is that anyone can buy a gun and there’s no waiting period for tempers to cool down so people with unruly tempers are more likely to shoot themselves. And, so far, there are no penalties for parents who leave their guns in places where young children can find them and kill someone. And none of these concerns have anything to do with the mentally ill who are more likely to kill themselves than the lives of others.