There are four main types of narcissism. Researchers have been searching for the core of narcissism that all narcissists share despite varying symptoms and severity. Narcissists use a variety of tactics and defenses to keep you insecure and ensure your status and needs are met. It’s easy to get confused, but it’s important to understand and spot what kind of narcissist you’re dealing with. Recently, two research teams have
identified a common trait.

the grandiose narcissist

Although there are different degrees and types of narcissism, for years research has focused primarily on exposure-seeking familial narcissists. These are the braggarts magnificent narcissists who are public figures and are recognizable in movies. They are described in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).

We can all spot those charming, attention-seeking extroverts whose vanity and audacity are sometimes obnoxious and shameless. They are self-absorbed, authoritarian, insensitive, exploitative, authoritarian and aggressive. Some are physically abusive. These arrogant and empathetic narcissists think highly of themselves, but they spare no disdain for others. Aided by their extraversion, they report high self-esteem and satisfaction with their lives, despite the pain they cause others. Because they outwardly seek acclaim, attention, and dominance, grandiose narcissism externalizes. Even in love, they seek power by playing. Many do have relationships, despite the lack of intimacy and the unhappiness of their partners, who are easily seduced by their charisma and daring.

The vulnerable narcissist

A lesser-known type of narcissism is vulnerable narcissism (also known as covert, introverted, or covert narcissism). Like their grandiose relatives, vulnerable narcissists are selfish, bossy, exploitative, empathetic, manipulative, and aggressive, but they fear criticism so much that they shy away from attention. Individuals with both types of narcissism often lack autonomy, have impostor syndrome, a weak sense of self, are alienated, and are unable to master their environment.

Unlike grandiose narcissists, instead of feeling confident and self-satisfied, vulnerable narcissists are insecure and unhappy with their lives. They experience more distress, anxiety, guilt, depression, hypersensitivity, and shame. They are conflicted, have inflated and negative irrational views of themselves, the latter of which they project onto other people, their lives and the future. His negative emotionality represents a bitter neurotic aversion to personal growth. They require reinforcement for their grandiose self-image and are highly defensive when perceived criticism triggers a negative view of themselves.

Unlike extraverted narcissists, they lack positive relationships. Instead of boldly dominating people, they are threat-oriented and distrustful. Their attachment style is more avoidant and anxious. They withdraw from others with hostile guilt and resentment, internalizing their narcissism. Empathetic codependents sympathize and want to put them out of their misery, but end up sacrificing and feeling responsible for them.

the communal narcissist

Even more difficult to identify is a third type of narcissism. It was recently named communal narcissism. Community narcissists value warmth, kindness, and relatedness. They see themselves and want to be seen by others as the most trustworthy and supportive person and they try to achieve this through kindness and kindness.

They are extroverts like the grandiose narcissist. However, while the grandiose narcissist wants to be seen as the most intelligent and powerful, a communal narcissist wants to be seen as the most generous and helpful. The vain selflessness of communitarian narcissists is no less selfish than that of a grandiose narcissist. Both share similar motives of grandiosity, esteem, entitlement, and power, though each employs different behaviors to achieve them. When his hypocrisy is discovered, it is a major fall.

The malignant narcissist

Malignant narcissists are considered to be at the extreme end of the narcissism type continuum due to their cruelty and aggressiveness. They are paranoid, immoral and sadistic. They find pleasure in creating chaos and bringing people down. These narcissists are not necessarily grandiose, extroverted, or neurotic, but they are closely related to psychopathy, the dark triad, and antisocial personality disorder. (Houlcroft, et al. (2012)

Fluctuating ego states among types of narcissism

If you’re having a hard time identifying what type of narcissist you’re dealing with, it may be because grandiose narcissists oscillate between states of grandiosity and vulnerability. For example, grandiose narcissists may display vulnerability and emotionality (usually anger) when their success is thwarted or their self-concept is under attack. Greater grandiosity indicates greater instability and probability of fluctuation. There is little evidence that vulnerable narcissists display grandiosity. (Edershile & Wright, 2019), (Rhodewalt, et al. 1998)

The search for the core of narcissism

Using new techniques, recent studies have attempted to isolate a single, unifying trait among narcissists. The researchers examined narcissism by testing for different personality traits. Two recent models have emerged: one is based on personality and the other is an integrative and transactional approach.

The trifurcated model

The trifurcated model shows that narcissism centers around three personality traits: agentic extraversion, unpleasantness, and neuroticism. (Miller, Lynam, et al., 1917) (Agency extroverts are bold, authoritarian ambitions who pursue positions of acclaim, achievement, and leadership.)

Of the Big Five personality traits, Dislike is the only one common to both types. The model illuminates the core of narcissism as an interpersonal antagonism, shared by grandiose and vulnerable narcissists alike. It is characterized by manipulation, hostility, entitlement, callousness, and anger. (Kaufman, et al., 2020) Vulnerable and grandiose narcissists express antagonism differently. The former are more hostile and distrustful, and the latter more immodest and domineering.

The Spectrum Model

The Narcissism Spectrum Model (NSM) created by Kerzan and Herlache (2017) conceives of narcissism as existing on a spectrum from the grandiose to the vulnerable. Demonstrates how NPD varies in severity and how traits manifest. The model reveals the spectrum model of narcissism

that both types of narcissists share a common psychological core of titled self-importance. Narcissists believe that they and their needs are special and take precedence over those of others. This core is made up of arrogance, selfishness, and entitlement. In fact, the law is reported to be the most toxic element in relationships.

The different personalities of narcissists express different qualities at various times, this model captures a fluid and functional analysis that is more representative of real life. The greater the grandiosity of a person, the less his vulnerability and vice versa. More entitlement and risk taking increase professional and interpersonal difficulties. The greater the vulnerability, the further away (lesser) is its grandiosity.

takeaway

In short, narcissism exists on a spectrum from dominant and extraverted to introverted and neurotic. The core features of narcissism are antagonism, self-importance, and entitlement, making narcissists unpleasant, uncooperative partners, and co-workers. Because other personality types can be antagonistic, I prefer the spectrum model that highlights the right to self-importance as the core of narcissism, thus distinguishing it from sociopathy and borderline personality disorder, among others.

Grandiose narcissists present a mixed bag. While they feel and function better than vulnerable narcissists and can participate socially when they want to, their antagonism and rights create problems and endanger relationships. If they attend psychotherapy, they should focus on their antagonism and entitlement.

On the other hand, vulnerable narcissists need help managing their perceptions, moods, and emotions. They resemble people with borderline personality disorder and would benefit from dialectical behavior therapy, which is effective in reducing antagonism. Schema-focused psychotherapy and cognitive behavioral therapy are helpful for both types to reduce shame and anger.

Whichever type of narcissist you care about, the relationship is hurtful. Instead of meeting his needs, he feels undermined and exhausted as he deals with frequent criticism, insensitivity, hostility, demands, and legitimate expectations. Don’t waste your efforts trying to please or change a narcissist. Instead, begin recovery to rebuild your self-esteem and autonomy so that you are more resilient, whether you stay or go. If you’re undecided, seek individual psychotherapy and use the tools in Dealing with a Narcissist to determine the prognosis for your relationship.

© Darlene Lancer 2020

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