The other day, I received an email asking, “I’ve noticed my hair is a lot oilier lately. Could that be why I’m losing more hair? Or is it possible that the hair loss has made my hair oilier?” I’ve noticed a correlation between my hair being oilier and losing more hair.” In reality, there are many reasons why this may be occurring. I will talk about them in the next article.

Oily hair, androgens and hair loss/shedding: The most obvious answer here is that oily hair is the result of excess sebum, DHT, or androgens. This could be the result of genetics finally rearing its ugly head. It could also be the result of a medical problem that causes excess androgen production. Examples of this are polycystic ovary syndrome, some endocrine disorders, or excess cortisol (in both men and women) or testosterone (in women). Many people with genetic shedding, hair loss, or thinning have androgen sensitivity. It is not necessarily that they produce more of these substances than normal. It is that they are too sensitive to them, so even a little can cause more losses or molting.

Sometimes drugs can cause androgenic responses. An example would be if you changed birth control pills and the new ones contain more progesterone (this can cause an androgenic effect in some). You can have the same reactions at certain times of the month (for women). As you get closer to your period, you sometimes have more breakouts or oil on your face and hair, since you have to deal with more progesterone.

Inflammation due to shedding and hair loss: Another is that your scalp (and therefore your hair) is reacting to inflammation which is likely the result of too many hairs entering the resting phase at the same time. This happens when you are shedding a lot (telogen effluvium). The scalp may become sore, red, pink, or angry looking. As a result, your body produces more oils and sebum in an attempt to soothe your scalp or counter inflammation. Of course this can sometimes make the problem worse if you are sensitive to these things as I have described.

Are your hair strands getting thinner?: Sometimes I have people tell me that their hair is becoming limp and oilier when what is really happening is that they have a bit of hair miniaturization (where their hair starts to grow thinner and finer, usually due to AGA) and these Finer, limp hair can’t handle the same amount of natural oils that were always there because the strands are smaller, thinner and in diameter and are becoming saturated and weighed down. In this case, I often tell people to use their conditioner before their shampoo, and to be careful using heavy products. You will also need to shampoo your hair regularly to prevent fine hair from becoming limp and sticking to your head and to keep your scalp healthy.

Do you avoid washing your hair for fear of losing more?: Speaking of washing regularly, I find that it is very common when you are experiencing hair loss or hair loss to think about washing your hair less frequently. It might seem logical that when you’re losing tons of hair every time you wash it, you think it might be a good idea to wash less. This can backfire because it can make a bad situation worse.

You want to keep your scalp clean and your hair follicles clear to encourage healthy, thick growth. The appearance of your hair depends on both how much it grows out and how much it grows back. You will damage your new growth if you do not keep your scalp as clean as it should be. And, the hairs that come out when you shampoo were going to come out soon enough anyway and there’s nothing you can do to prevent them from coming out once it’s in the resting phase. (It’s in the phase for a few weeks before it really comes off.) So while you may think you’re avoiding loss by skipping a shampoo or two, you could be doing more damage in the long run than you think.

If you are struggling with a severe hangover, you feel unhealthy and horrible. And more often than not, it can be accompanied by severe headaches and when the hangover is really worse, you can’t stand up and feel like throwing up most of the time. To cure a hangover properly, we are first going to explain what causes this disease.

Consuming too much causes a hangover. Although the negative effects of a hangover can be minimized, it will still depend on certain things, such as how much alcohol you drank or whether you can genetically burn alcohol much faster than normal. The main explanation behind why hangovers occur is dehydration. Alcohol will crush your body and dry it out by removing water from your body.

This will make your kidney work twice as long creating damage to your kidney by making you urinate more often than normal. Alcohol will also pickle your liver. This organ is very fragile and it is the one that filters all the things that you ate and drank and you could try to imagine this organ submerged in alcohol to give you an idea. All the other vital organs in your body are affected by alcohol. Some acquire temporary damage while others can acquire permanent damage that may or may not bring certain diseases in the future.

Alcohol will also sabotage important vitamins that your body needs to function normally. Apart from vitamins, important substances will also be removed. Potassium, a very important electrolyte that controls water levels in your body, will be lost when you drink too much alcohol. Once these vitamins, minerals, and electrolytes are lost, things will get worse inside your body. Just try to think of a car that loses valuable lubricants and oils, the car will definitely be destroyed.

By discovering the damage alcohol will do to your body, you can now get an idea of ​​how to treat your hangover the right way. The first step you have to do, no matter how strange you feel, is to drink a lot of water. Drink as much water as you can to replace what was lost.

The next step you should do is consume foods rich in minerals. Preparing fresh vegetables and eating fresh fruits will definitely help your body to recover quickly. It will replace the lost minerals and electrolytes that were destroyed during your binge. So do your best to get up and make breakfast. If you feel like throwing up, making fruit smoothies will definitely help you. Consuming cold juice will also do the same.

Keep in mind that having a hangover is not good and it is not healthy. It only shows that you are consuming alcohol more than the recommended amount. Your health is at risk and you suffer from a severe hangover that will destroy the day ahead. Do your best to control your alcohol intake to avoid a hangover in the morning when you wake up.

I can’t see. Do I need aura glasses? Where can I buy them? As far as I know, auric glasses don’t exist. There are cameras that can capture an image of your aura at any given moment, but just as looking at a photograph is not the same as meeting a person, seeing a snapshot of an aura won’t tell you much.

Do you need a camera or a pair of glasses to see the aura? Of course not! All you need are your eyes, all three. Why all three? Our visible eyes see differently than our Sensory Eye: the Third Eye, the Pineal Gland.

Auras emit a different spectrum and wavelengths than what our two visible eyes can pick up on their own. While our two eyeballs are more developed to see details and objects with previously stored data and therefore transmit more strongly to the left side of your brain, the Third Eye transmits more directly to the right side of your brain. to the third eye, the attention is NOT in the details.

So you have exerted yourself and tried to train the eyes, but you find that you cannot see the auras. It’s not that you need glasses or a camera; it’s how you do it. Chances are you’ve stared at some willing volunteer until he squirms with fatigue and you grow increasingly frustrated. As time goes by, you may start to think, “Will this work? Am I a failure? Will my friend tell my other friends that I’m fake?” for hard edges to bounce your vision against, and finally it was all left brain on yourself. You began to think instead of feeling, you began to focus on the subject, not the matter.

This much repeated exercise of looking at someone against a light colored wall is simply not feasible for some people when they first start developing Auric Sight. For most people, it’s too much pressure, whether it’s from a volunteer who gets tired and skeptical or from those old tapes playing in your head screaming, “You will never learn to do this.”

So first of all, it doesn’t have to be a light colored wall. Personally, I see auras more easily against dark walls. Stop asking people to offer themselves as a guinea pig. Everything has an aura, even a piece of furniture, so take the pressure off of success. Don’t work with people and give your left brain a vacation.

I personally started working with trees during my lunch break. I would eat my lunch and then depending on the weather I would sit in my car or on a bench outside the building and work to soften my focus on the trees. Then I moved on to other things. This downtime allowed me to relax, not just my body and mind, but my eyes as well. My friends didn’t run away from me and the trees had all the time and patience in the world.

The best times to see him are when he is tired, bored, very relaxed, or daydreaming. The best viewing times are when you’re not feeling pressured. The worst time is when you TRY to see auras. So my recommendation is to forget about the traditional instructions.

Next, open your definition of whether or not you are seeing auras and how you see them. Personally, I don’t usually see many colors. I guess my third eye cones aren’t as developed as my rods, but I see the layers of aura and what can be in them. I see them change and move with thoughts etc. It is usually like patterns of energy waves or black and white. From time to time, it resembles the northern lights and is breathtakingly beautiful. Black and white and especially energy patterns seem to be my strength more than color. You could be like me and not see auras by the book.

If you’ve been saving up for Auric Glasses, open that piggy bank and use the money to relax. Hang out in a hammock and look at the tree that supports it. You may see an aura.

Colors play an important role in our life. Each color has an expressive element that reflects our emotional flows, such as passion, celebration and pain, called ‘Colour Symbolism’. We are discussing here ‘Magenta color symbolism’.

Starting with its history, the origin story of magenta is straightforward. The term magenta was coined from a dye-providing plant called fushina, discovered after the Battle of Magenta in Italy. There are various shades of magenta, all commonly known as magenta. Magenta is an extraspectral color, which means that it cannot be created by one wavelength of light. It is made up of red and blue wavelengths, called red-purple in the Munsell color system. Due to its distinct base of two aggressive colors, magenta emerges significantly differently on canvas, in print, and on the computer screen. Magenta has a full range of ‘color symbolism’ in various fields.

In the CMYK (cyan, magenta, yellow, and key (black)) color model, followed in print, magenta is one of the four main ink colors. In ‘Digital Art’, or during printing, the bright side of the color seen on the ‘computer screen’ is called ‘electric’ magenta, also thought of as fuchsia. The ‘print’ version of the same ‘electric magenta’ is known as a ‘process’ magenta. Magenta symbolizes ‘anti-racism’ from the Anti-Racism Magenta Foundation in Amsterdam. In Spain, Magenta is the official color of the ‘political’ party called UPYD (Union, Progress and Democracy). In ‘parapsychology’, a person with a magenta aura is usually described as creative and artistic. Therefore, these people often work well as artists, actors, art dealers, costume designers, authors, or set designers. Magenta also extends its magnetic contribution to business. It is the trademark color of Deutsche Telekom AG, parent company of T-Mobile.

On the expressive level, used in art, where magenta is less aggressive and more spiritual than red, it is more realistic than violet. He is volatile, optimistic and affectionate, creating a feeling of contentment and self-respect, while being imaginative, outrageous and innovative too, all the time. Magenta is the color of the ‘new age’, healing on all emotional levels. With a streak of ‘futurism’, it promises the future. A strong, deep, complex and highly impressive colour, magenta is linked with inspiring thinkers, particularly those who think ahead.

Additionally, the ‘Magenta Color Symbolism’ extends to divinity, love, learning and nurturing. It can help people with earthly abilities to merge with powerful spirituality and release past agony and move on. Color emotionally cleanses a being and instills the feeling of self-respect, protection and self-awareness in oneself. This color balances emotions by being both uplifting and calming, thus controlling emotional and emotional conditions. Definitely, despite the complexity of its tones and hues, magenta is a bright and versatile color, creating all the magic possible through art or otherwise.

Everyone wants to have a happy and successful relationship. We must remember that good relationships do not happen by chance; after all, we are not living in a fairy tale. We have to work on it.

Here are my top 10 keys to relationship success:

1. Communicate! Communicate! Communicate!

Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. We all know that men and women use different languages ​​– learn to speak your partner’s language. Learn to listen – God gave us two ears and one mouth. Eliminate distractions so you can focus on each other’s conversation.

2. Resolve conflicts or disagreements with respect

It’s a myth that happy couples never disagree. You are two unique people, of course you will think differently about things. Learn to resolve conflicts when you are calm and can think things through rationally. And always try to maintain the dignity and self-esteem of the other person. That means no name calling!

3. Have goals for your relationship

It’s always a good idea to set goals together as a couple, whether they’re 3-month, 6-month, 1-year, or 5-year goals. And don’t be intimidated by the word meta. All we are saying is that the two of you need to agree on what you want from your relationship or not. When you do this, it helps keep the two of you together with a common vision. To give you an example, your goal this year might be to have more fun together as a couple. And how you’ll do that is schedule two date nights each month and maybe take a fun class together, like a dance class. This is exactly what one of the couples I worked with did last year and they enjoyed it so much that they decided to go ahead and take their dance exams.

4. Stop keeping score

This is a problem. A successful relationship is one in which each party gives 100%, not 50-50. “I did this, so you must do that” is not a happy moment! Women are particularly good at keeping score and this can be very bad for our relationships because we give from a position of expectation instead of giving out of love.

5. Keep the romance alive

Get out of the habit of only dealing with mundane things like whether your phone bill has been paid or who needs to pick up the kids from ballet or soccer. Do you remember when you first fell in love? How did they talk for hours on end just looking at each other? Start flirting again – use SMS, email, phone, notes on pillows, etc. Have a specific date night at least once a month. Even if you just go to Wimpy for coffee, he’ll give you a chance to reconnect romantically.

6. Make sure the needs of others are met

Men and women have very different ideas of what is most important to them. I come across this in my coaching job all the time and it never ceases to amaze me. If you don’t know what your partner’s top five needs are, ask them! It will help you understand why they behave the way they do. Just to give you an idea of ​​how the needs differ, women generally rate safety in the top three while men generally rate sex in the top three!

7. Decide to be happy instead of right.

I know I’m going to step on my toes now, BUT you have to continually ask yourself, do I want to be happy or not? Please understand that I am not saying that you should become a doormat. But sometimes you have to ask yourself this really hard question. You may win the argument, but have you won in love? Learn to admit when you’re wrong and ask for forgiveness.

8. Focus on your partner’s strengths

Sometimes we forget why we fell in love. In my workshops and when I coach couples, one of the first things I have them do is write a list of the things they love about their partner. I do this because when we look away from the negatives, we begin to appreciate our partner’s unique gifts and characteristics. When you focus on what a good father your husband is, it’s hard to keep reminding yourself that he leaves the toilet seat up or forgets to change the toilet paper.

9. Make time for fun

Notice I said “make time.” You have to schedule it because if you wait until you have time to do fun things, you’ll be waiting forever! Take time to laugh at silly things, go see romantic comedies, leave silly notes in your lunch box, on your car, or on your pillow. My husband and I regularly flirt over email. It sounds like a small thing, but it really adds a lot of fun to the day.

10. Say “I love you” often.

Those three little words mean a lot. Don’t assume he/she knows so you don’t have to say it. Don’t worry, you won’t wear out words! In addition to saying it, think of other ways you can show your love. Nothing says I love you like a clean kitchen sink to me! (In fact, I was recently quoted in Shape magazine for saying that a clean kitchen means romance to me.)

The good news is that you don’t need him or her to be a willing participant to see a difference in your relationship. of course, is better if both decide to change their relationship for the better.

Remember, you can do it! Here is their amazing relationship!

Fashion and beauty magazines are full of articles about “cosmeceuticals,” a new type of skin care product that they claim provide clinically proven improvements for a number of skin conditions, from aging to exposure. prolonged in the sun But what exactly are cosmeceuticals? Do they really work? And how do you know which type of cosmeceutical is right for your skincare needs?

IN cosmeceuticalFirst of all, it is a formulation that combines the aesthetic benefits of cosmetics with the proven restorative effects of ingredients isolated by pharmaceutical scientists. And yes, they really are effective in improving a number of skin conditions, including those caused by sun exposure and aging. Cosmeceuticals include five basic categories: antioxidants, retinoids, lightening agents, hydroxy acids, and botanicals. Being familiar with each one is the key to knowing which one is right for your individual skincare needs.

Antioxidants: vitamin C, vitamin E and niacinamide

You know what happens when metal rusts: it rusts. Something similar happens to skin as it ages: it is subject to oxidation due to exposure to a number of environmental aggressors. That’s why using skin care products with antioxidants like vitamin C, vitamin E, and niacinamide is so beneficial. Vitamin C is not only a powerful antioxidant, but is also important in collagen synthesis and as a lightening agent. Vitamin E, another powerful antioxidant, is also known for its photoprotective properties; its ability to protect against UV rays has been the subject of numerous studies. In combination with sunscreen, vitamin E reduces the signs of aging caused by sun exposure. Niacinamide, a B vitamin, is used to treat sallower rosacea, the most common yellowish skin in the Asian population. It is very safe and shows a good tolerability profile for the patient.

Retinoids: realdehyde, esters, retinoic acid

Due to its strength and versatility, retinoic acid is the standard by which all other cosmeceuticals are measured. Retinoic acid is derived from vitamin A. You can find a variety of retinol-based products on the market. As a group, they are called retinoids and, in addition to retinoic acid, include realdehyde and esters. Most are topical formulations, although oral retinoic acid is used to treat severe acne. Retinoic acid also has anti-aging properties. It can reduce fine lines and wrinkles, and lighten hyperpigmentation associated with sun spots and age spots. Retinoids favor the thinning of the outermost layer and increase the regeneration of the epidermis. Side effects include skin irritation and redness. Other formulations, such as esters, do not have these side effects, but are not as effective. For daily use, retinaldehyde must be effective and tolerated. Retinoid use should be discontinued up to one week before any cosmetic procedures such as lasers, chemical peels, or microdermabrasion. However, they can be used in conjunction with these procedures to enhance and prolong their benefits. In fact, retinoids can speed healing.

Lightening Agents: Hydroquinone, Azelaic Acid, Kojic Acid, Vitamin C

One of the most visible signs of skin damage associated with aging and sun exposure is localized hyperpigmentation, such as sun and age spots. A variety of lightening agents can reduce hyperpigmentation. The gold standard has been hydroquinone. Hydroquinone inhibits the formation of melanin, the pigment that gives skin its color and causes sun and age spots. Hydroquinone is available in multiple concentrations, typically at 4% concentrations in pharmaceutical grade products. However, due to their side effects of skin irritation and contact dermatitis, as well as possible mutagenic effects (the potential to cause genetic mutations), newer agents derived from natural substances have found their way to the center of attention. attention. (Hydroquinone has been banned in over-the-counter preparations in several European countries, as well as in Japan.)

These newer agents include azelaic acid, kojic acid, vitamin C, and even botanicals like licorice. Although not as potent as hydroquinone, these agents have no side effects and can be used every day. Popular as an antioxidant and for its role in collagen production, Vitamin C also works as a lightening agent. Vitamin C is not produced by the body and therefore must be ingested or applied topically. A variety of these lightening agents are often combined with retinoids and glycolic acid because they work synergistically to diminish pigmentation.

botanicals

The major source of additives in cosmeceutical preparations today are botanical extracts from plants, flowers, fruits, berries, twigs, and bark. They can be classified into three basic groups: anti-inflammatories, antioxidants (see above), and skin-soothing agents. Some botanicals also support the immune system and facilitate repair. Some commonly used botanicals include aloe, soybeans, green tea, gingko biloba, and witch hazel.

Hydroxy acids: alpha, beta, poly

You’ve heard of the corrosive effects of acid. So why do acids play such an important role in cosmeceutical products? Because these are natural hydroxy acids. Some of them, such as glycolic, citric, and tartaric acids, are derived from fruits. Lactic acid is derived from sour milk and was used by the ancient Egyptians for softer, smoother skin. Salicylic acid is a beta hydroxy acid that is fat soluble and therefore particularly helpful for those with oily skin, as the oil absorbs the acid.

Hydroxy acids work by exfoliating the skin, in this case removing the outermost layer. Glycolic acid, in addition to exfoliating, is also known for its moisturizing capacity. Glycolic acid also stimulates fibroblast cells in the skin to produce collagen and hyaluronic acid. Both collagen and hyaluronic acid form the supporting structure of the skin, but the amount of these natural acids decreases as we age. Botanical, cosmeceutical products such as these derived from natural substances also work synergistically with other agents, such as retinoids, to provide anti-aging effects to the skin.

Cosmeceuticals can improve a number of skin conditions that other cosmetics can only cover. But it’s important to consult your health care provider when considering cosmeceutical options. That’s a good idea, too, because many professional-grade cosmeceutical products are available only through medical doctors and dermatologists.

Let me tell you how to really treat your acne problem.

I know you’ve probably tried everything and think there’s no way to treat those pesky red bumps.

LET’S START FROM THE BEGINNING…

What is acne really?

Acne is a group of skin rashes that have different causes. It is an inflammatory skin disease that affects the sebaceous glands in the skin.

Acne is the most common skin disease. Nearly 17 million people in the United States have it.

Most pimples are found on the face, neck, back, chest, and shoulders.

Acne is not a serious health threat, but it can cause scarring.

There are many types of pimples such as:

Whiteheads (stay below the surface of the skin), Blackheads (rise to the surface of the skin and look black), Papules (small pink bumps), Pustules (red with pus on top), Nodules (large , painful, deep in the skin) , Cysts (deep, painful, can leave scars).

Now that we know what acne is, I’m sure everyone wants to know how to treat acne.

Here’s how it works: everyone has the right solution for him/her, what you should do is try these natural treatments and see which one works best for you.

Here are some of the solutions I’m talking about:

1. Cook the oatmeal and apply it on the face for fifteen minutes, then wash it off.

2. Make a warm bath with blanching nettle and rosemary to reduce acne.

3. Apply the same amount of lemon juice and rose water with a cotton ball, leave it on for half an hour and wash it off. Repeat for 15-20 days.

4. Rub the acne with cloves of garlic several times a day.

5. Wash your face with avocado paste mixed with water.

6. Bedouin medicines: Eat one medium grated radish with each meal. Drink 2 cups of rosemary tea. Drink 3 glasses of water with squeezed lemon and honey.

7. Mix 1 tablespoon of dry or fresh yeast with 2 tablespoons of lemon juice; apply to the face, wait for it to harden (try not to move), peel or wash with lukewarm water.

8. Cleanse your skin: Soak a cotton ball in lemon juice or apple cider vinegar and apply to your face.

9. Mix 2-3 tea bags with a little basil and cook in boiling water for 10-20 minutes. Then apply to the acne with a cotton ball.

10. Saturate lettuce leaves in water, use water to rinse face and acne.

11. Grind bay leaves and scald in water, cool and apply on acne.

12. Boil water in a saucepan, add a little apple cider vinegar. Cool, put a towel on your head and lean over the pan.

13. Clean your face every morning with a cotton ball soaked in vinegar; could itch; try on a small part first.

You can find many more acne home remedies on the GrannyMed website.

Good luck!

As a practicing chiropractor for over 35 years, one of the tenets I have observed is that the body will always try to protect itself. We all know that if we sprain our ankle it will swell. Swelling is the body’s way of splinting the joint to prevent movement that could further injure us. If we eat spoiled food, we will vomit to expel the toxins. If we hurt our neck or lower back, the muscles will go into spasm to stabilize the area so we don’t cause further injury. We don’t necessarily like what our bodies do to protect us, but these protective functions keep us from further harm.

This article will discuss the protective mechanisms the body takes on when the neck or lower back is injured. He will also discuss a recent research article detailing a scientific study that takes a deeper look at this topic.

Anyone who has injured their neck or back has had the very uncomfortable process of suffering from muscle spasms. At worst, this can prevent us from performing virtually all activities of daily living. At best, we could perform normal functions, but the pain can be quite aggravating. As noted above, when these areas are injured, the body will do whatever it takes to protect itself. Muscles and spasm protect the neck and back joints from excess movement that could further damage them.

Many times we suffer what are called subacute injuries. They are usually the mildest form of neck and back injury. They usually occur from overuse of repetitive stresses on the body. For example, someone who sits for long hours at a desk and a computer may develop neck and upper back pain. Or someone who stands for long hours, such as a cashier, may develop chronic low back pain.

With these chronic subacute conditions, subtle alterations of the body occur to provide protection against further damage. In the case of the office worker, most people start to develop very tight muscles at the top of the shoulders and at the back of the base of the skull. In the case of the teller, the large muscles along the spine become tight and go into some degree of spasm.

When I see these patients in my office, I usually approach the correction in two phases. The first phase consists of correcting misalignments and inappropriate movements of the spinal joints. Muscles that are tense, and in spasms and areas of defense, will now have a chance to relax and return to normal tone.

The second phase is to strengthen some weaker muscles to improve posture and support areas under stress. The office worker will receive gentle exercises to strengthen some smaller muscles in the neck area and shoulder blades. The cashier will receive exercises to strengthen the important abdominal muscles.

I call this turning off some muscles and activating them. This usually balances the area under stress and allows the body to heal properly.

A study in the research journal, Skull, October 2019, discuss this. The study compared 22 people with neck and headache pain with 22 healthy subjects. The researchers observed that the deep neck muscles of healthy subjects were normal. However, the muscles of the participants in the neck pain and headache group were weak. The researchers suggest that healthcare professionals should take this into account when developing a treatment plan for patients with this condition. Chiropractic physicians often treat patients with headaches and neck pain through spinal manipulation and therapeutic exercises.

It is important for healthcare professionals and patients to look at the full picture of what is causing neck and back conditions. Pills or injections are often used to suppress the symptoms. For more than 125 years, chiropractors have used multifaceted, effective, and safe care to help patients with common complaints of neck and back pain.

Wonderful story that combines the mystery of the Brier Hospital, its patients, doctors, nurses and other workers. There is a murder at Brier Hospital, but who is committing the murder? How safe are the patients in your room, some in a difficult state of health where they can’t think clearly, and others in a very delicate state near the end of their life? Dr. Jacob Weizman and his wife, Lola, were longtime Holocaust survivors; Jacob was eighty-eight years old and Lola eighty-five. Jacob was highly regarded in the medical world of Brier and beyond for many reasons. He told it like it was, but always had compassion for his patients. That, along with his experience with almost any health problem, made him invaluable and trustworthy in the medical field. Lola also continued to be active in her practice as a psychotherapist despite her age. She and Jacob would be lost without their professions and each other.

Usually there is one person in most hospital staff who has their issues with others in that hospital and that was the case with Jacob and some thought he was too old to practice medicine but these same people had to admit that he was the best. and wiser in the hospital despite his age. When a friend of Jacobs called and told him about a young doctor, Zoe Spelling, who was looking for a practice to practice, Jacob asked him to come see him. Jacob hired Dr. Zoe Spelling. He knew he was getting old and could use someone to help him. Dr. Spelling was a bright young woman who seemed very capable and Jacob, despite her complaints about some things she did or didn’t do, thought she was a good fit as his partner.

A few patients died when they should not have, and each of these deaths was thoroughly investigated and autopsied. At first it was thought that they might have died of natural causes, but some were not convinced of that. Another employee was stealing drugs and selling them. He worked in Brier as a regular so he could work freely at the hospital and sneak into the locked drug supply room. Eventually, the police were involved in the investigation, first with an undercover police officer with a background in nursing. Shelly was a good fit, but she didn’t find anything safe in the way of a murderer.

Jacob and Lola were such a happy couple. Jacob worked so many hours but knew that his beloved Lola was there for him at home no matter what. Lola and Jacob discussed each other’s patients’ problems sometimes and really complimented each other that way. They hated seeing so many of their friends die, especially after going through the Holocaust, losing so many family and friends during it. Police action intensified as the killings continued and all hospital staff members were suspected.

I look forward to any future Dr. Gold books. He writes in common people language, which a person in the medical field doesn’t always do. You will love this book and you may be suspicious of certain people, but in the end you will probably be surprised. Enjoy and thank you Dr. Gold.

Right now, one could be in a position where they believe their parents are to blame for what is happening. This could show that their life is a mess and that they may have mental and emotional problems.

Perhaps they have only had this perspective for a short time, or perhaps it has been with them for several years. Either way, they might experience a lot of anger, rage, and hatred towards them and have moments where they think about getting even for what they went through.

a different point of view

If there are people in your life, most, if not all, could tell you that you need to ‘let go’ and ‘forgive’ your parents. So blaming their parents will look like a complete waste of time.

As far as these people are concerned, what happened will be in the past and that will be all there is. Also, they could be told that their point of power is in the now and that they have no control over what happened.

Is no different

If one were to seek outside support, be it a therapist or a coach, for example, they might have a very similar experience. Here, one could essentially be told that he needs to move on with his life and put the past behind him.

They may even be told that they need to ‘stop being a victim’, something that is unlikely to be very pleasant to hear. Ergo, what happened will be seen as totally irrelevant and as something they can put aside.

two ends

So regardless of whether you relate to the people in your life or the person who is there to help them, it will be like there are only two options available. Either one blames their parents and gets stuck in the past, so they forgive them and move on.

Based on this black and white view, it will be perfectly clear that the second option is the best. What could also be added is that ‘his parents did the best they could’.

Two points

Firstly, the above shows that it is as if there are only two options, and secondly, that the past is in the past. Also, parents are always supposed to deserve respect, even idolization, and there are no such things as ‘bad’ parents.

What if there are more than two options available and their past isn’t really in the past and it’s not enough for them to just forgive? Ultimately, there’s more to this than is often mentioned, and that’s why it’s so important to look deeper.

The first

Without a doubt, if it was a question of blaming the parents and staying stuck or forgiving and moving on, the logical thing to do would be to do the latter. The truth is that one is not going to live forever, so there is no point in wasting precious time and energy on it.

However, what this vision does not take into account is that if you are very bad and have not developed much of the adult self, you are not going to be able to simply forgive your parents. In order for them to truly do this, they will need to move past the pain they are in and forgive themselves.

The second

The reason for this is that what happened will be over, but they will still carry the emotional pain and trauma they experienced all those years ago. If they don’t acknowledge how they feel and get over it, with outside support if they need it, this baggage won’t go away.

Now, forcing themselves to forgive their parents and not blame them anymore might allow them to look good and even prevent them from feeling guilty, but they will just live in denial. You will still carry all of your internal wounds, and these internal wounds will continue to impact your reality and your physical health.

just one stage

If you could take a step back in your experience, you might see that you have merged with what could be classified as your childish self; the part of them that is deeply hurt. Having merged with this part of them, it will not cross their minds to move forward or if what they are doing is serving them.

This wounded part of them will need their adult self to acknowledge what is happening and hold the space for this part to express what it was unable to express all those years ago. Until this adult self is in place, a therapist or healer will be needed to hold the space.

without resistance

With this in mind, if you can’t let go of the past or ‘forgive’ your parents, it doesn’t mean you have to force yourself to move on; it means that at least a part of them is not on the right track and is calling to be seen and heard. If one were just one person and not made up of many different parts, this would not be the case.

If willpower is used to move forward, these parts will be overridden and ignored, an experience one is very familiar with. Perhaps the main reason why they are now in a bay state is that they did not receive the loving presence they needed when they were growing up, and that is why it is so important that one receive it now, from oneself or from another if not currently. they can provide it.

Awareness

What this illustrates is that it’s not about forgiving your parents or not forgiving them, it’s about them acknowledging their own pain and getting over it. If they try to do the former before the latter, they may end up overlooking their own pain.

By working through your own inner wounds and forgiving yourself, you will naturally become more compassionate towards those who mistreated you. Forgiving them will then be a byproduct of the work they have done and are doing on themselves, not something they do to look good, please others, or to avoid feeling guilty and fearful.
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Lastly, what this also illustrates is that one cannot think or force their emotional pain; this, of course, would not be the case if your thoughts always created your feelings. The emotional body is very different from the mental body, so a very different approach is needed when it comes to dealing with a part of the self.