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We all internalize things, situations or even people differently. It cannot be poured from an empty cup. My husband has been telling me this continuously because it was a very difficult lesson for me. It’s still a bit hard for me and most days I have to make a dedicated effort to remember it. I spent most of my life putting the needs of others before my own. I was always proud of the fact that he cared so much for others, because in my mind, that meant that he was a good person and I could look in the mirror every day and feel good about myself.

Now let’s look at the other side of the spectrum… looking at other points of view of a situation is very difficult because most people only want to see one side of things. Some, because they feel so passionate about their side that they can’t be open enough to at least try to see another point of view. Others, because seeing another point of view would show another a very uncomfortable truth that they may not be prepared to see.

This is what I mean: I used to truly believe and be happy with who I was; caring and making sure everyone I loved was okay. Now mind you, I’m not saying this isn’t a lovely way to be because I think it is. But, taking care of everyone before myself, can you guess who wasn’t taken care of? While making sure everyone else was okay, I spent all my time, effort, money, and love on someone else. At the end of the day, week, or even month, I didn’t have a lot of time for myself. At the end of the day, I internalized that I wasn’t as important as everyone else in my life.

I have talked a lot about the Law of Attraction and I believe this to be true. Our brains are much more powerful than we can comprehend at times. It is your brain that can and will dictate what is presented to us with our thoughts alone. And not just our thoughts, but our perceptions. Just as like attracts like in thoughts, if you perceive these thoughts to be negative, you are attracting more perceived “negativity” into your life.

Have you ever noticed a situation unfolding with two very different people and two very different opposite reactions? Perhaps a person reacted calm, cold and collected; the other person would go crazy and create a snowball effect of negativity in her world that day. Here’s an example: a person sitting in traffic who doesn’t really move, is very angry and in a bad mood, and now, for the rest of the day, that negativity builds up and grows as other negative things happen, like the copier. broken when you get to work, or your food cold when you get it. Meanwhile, the other person is stopped in traffic and enjoys some alone time. This person understands that there is nothing she can do about it, so maybe dancing and singing to his favorite song is just what he does. Taking a negative situation and putting a positive spin on it is very difficult, but also very liberating.

It’s really not a question of who in that situation is right and who is wrong, but that you see that your brain can and does internalize everything. And your brain also internalizes things that you perceive to be right or wrong. If we could stop judging ourselves and others, and allow each experience in front of us to help us grow and become more grounded, then we would be in better health. Just as your brain attracts to you what you internalize, without you realizing it, so does your body. Your body is no different. Your body also gives you little signs that something is wrong on a daily basis. Most people are so used to ignoring these signs that they can’t even see them now. When you internalize these negative emotions and hold them there, they settle in your body as aches and pains. Eventually, after your body has been screaming at you for quite some time, it begins to create disease.

Any discomfort, pain or tension in certain areas of the body often has to do with the emotions that you keep inside of you. This may sound very silly, but it’s because most people just aren’t in touch with what’s going on in their body. I can tell you without a doubt that this is certainly true as I have personally experienced it. It was through much counseling and reading and wishing to heal myself that I realized this was true. Growing up in a home where children were seen and not heard, one might internalize my idea that their voice and opinion didn’t matter. That same child can learn to live quietly and never have an opinion for most of his life. It is that same child who would end up later in life with thyroid cancer.

Now, some may choose to see right and wrong in that situation, in judgment, but again, judgment is not necessary, nor is it the point. Others may choose to have a better understanding and see the big picture; that any internalized negative emotion will lead to aches, pains, and even disease if internalized long enough. Being that kid I just talked about, I now make a dedicated effort every day to speak my truth, no matter how I feel it will be received. I choose not to live in the right or wrong of a situation in judgment, but to learn the lesson and know my own worth. This is a difficult task, not only for me, but for many.

Here are some pains that are directly related to emotions that we can recognize and help us heal:

Headache

Many times, a headache means being overwhelmed. If you were to acknowledge that you are overwhelmed and find a healthy and constructive way to get through it, you would easily get over it. Do you love to cook, write, dance or paint? Do one of those things that you love and give it back some well-deserved time for your relaxation. Take some time for yourself to do a relaxing meditation. Let yourself know that you deserve it and that you are worth it!

Neck Pain

The physical symptoms of neck pain have to do with disc disease or osteoporosis. Whenever these symptoms appear, you may be holding on to an emotional fear of life or insecurity. Perhaps these emotions are helping you to be stubborn and inflexible. If this is something you recognize, try to make a conscious effort to see the other side of the situation and understand that there is no right or wrong, just lessons that help you grow and become more grounded and healthy.

Shoulder pain

The physical symptoms of shoulder pain can tell you that you are holding the weight of the world on your shoulders and not taking the time to care for yourself. Shoulder pain can appear because it represents our personal ability to experience life with joy and gratitude; not a burden Try to learn the lesson and grow. Take time for yourself and the well-being of your mind, body and spirit!

upper back pain

Upper back pain is usually portrayed as feelings of lack of emotional support. Feelings of not being loved or not being loved enough come up and this is a reminder that we are in charge of our own happiness. We need to remember that at the end of the day, WE are responsible for our own happiness. Go and get what you want, no matter how uncomfortable you feel. Because you deserve at least that and much much more!!

Half Back Bread

Middle back pain usually represents itself as feelings of guilt or simply being stuck in the past. Once again, this is a reminder to view the situation, not by placing blame, or right and wrong, but for the growth of your own happiness at this time.

lower back pain

The physical symptoms of low back pain may show up as sciatica, pelvic disorders, kidney stones, or colon problems. These symptoms can appear when you are afraid or lack financial support. Any pain in this area can keep you in a constant state of fear, because now you may be thinking, “What if I can’t work because of this?” Do you see this snow globe? It could be catastrophic if you are the person who will allow it. Again, listen to your body and find the source of this pain. Take care of yourself to do what needs to be done, so that you can release these emotions that are bringing pain to your body.

Knee pain

Knee pain occurs when we cannot bend or become inflexible on certain issues, feelings, or emotions. Again, remember that there are two very different types of people in the world, and three sides to every story; At the end of the day, none of these things really matter. It doesn’t matter who is right or who is wrong or even what has happened. Our happiness is what truly matters. It is only what we take in and learn from these situations, and how we love ourselves in the end that will keep us healthy and whole.

Hip pain

Hip pain is a sign of indecision; being afraid to make an important decision and move on. First, think about the worst that could happen if you make the wrong decision. You may need to start over. This can be a huge thing for some, but for others it’s a great learning experience, because they were able to remain positive. It’s all a matter of perception. Make it a great learning experience for yourself and learn to trust your gut. In most cases, you’ll find that you had the right answer all along, but you didn’t trust yourself enough to take the first step. Fear is one thing that will keep us in a state of imbalance which is what creates disease. I love you enough to trust you!

ankle pain

Ankle pain denotes emotions of inflexibility and guilt. This is a direct representation of the ability to receive or not receive pleasure. Again, sometimes we just need to remember how important our happiness is. We need to remind ourselves every day to take well-deserved time for ourselves and our well-being.

I started here with “You can’t pour from an empty cup!”, and while I believe this to be true, I still have to work every day to remember this and try to continue to remove some of the negativity that I have allowed. stay in me and in my body. This is a work in progress for myself to go beyond my definition of each experience and use those experiences to move into a state of consciousness so that I can keep myself and my body grounded in the here and now and stay healthy. . Old habits are hard to die, but all we can do is learn from the experiences we’ve had and do the best we can for ourselves every day. Learn and work every day to keep your mind, body and spirit in a balanced state! This is what keeps you healthy and whole~!

“If someone wishes for good health, he must first ask himself if he is ready to end the reasons for his illness. Only then is it possible to help him.”

~ Hippocrates

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt