Losing a loved one at some point is quite painful. I hope to God no one ever walks away unless a valid reason is triggered. Separations and distances are cracks, an abyss formed in a relationship. You yearn for her, she yearns for you, and no matter what happens, you try to maintain the attachment again. That’s okay because it’s your state of mind that keeps you alive and optimistic for the situation ahead. You would think that it does not matter if we are not together right now, but soon we will be united in a union that would be universal and unbroken. That hope keeps you alive from within.

Adults and teenagers yearn for so many things and aspects in a relationship. Desire is the basic nature of humans and we cannot deny it. We long for security, we long for love, care, sharing, listening, and the happiness that comes from our chosen partner. It’s not entirely wrong and it’s not entirely correct. Platonic love exists, but it is very difficult to maintain that level of relationship in these times when we have become quite needy. We absolutely need those things in life and it’s almost like breathing. As if our survival depended on that soul. People are attached to their parents, to their lovers, to their pets, to their partners, and sometimes it gets to that point of no return where you obsess over it or feel depressed without it. Attachment to a human being is fine, but with material things made of plastic, if they make you angry in the absence of it, then you really need help.

We all know how to surf the net, browse websites, click and post pictures and tell everyone how happy we are in our open but real life lumped together. For example, if our partner refuses something or neglects us for a few moments or days and does not talk to us as we want, we begin to doubt ourselves and the susceptibility of that person. The problem is that everyone thinks they are a vulnerable ballast in this life cycle. “My partner is so strong that he/she wouldn’t care if I left or someone else left.” This thinking makes us insecure on some levels because thanks to these social sites, we have become gluttonous bystanders in our own home. What is my husband doing, who is that handsome guy my wife is talking to? What is my girl doing clicking so many selfies? These questions are to mount the level of insecurity and desire. I’m not talking about the son/daughter thing, as that is the basic protection and security trait, but what bothers us about the couple is our lack of faith in the term of real love and loyalty. We live in constant fear of being separated from them and to curb that we pose more love to them (well technically more possession and a threat to their privacy and mental space) Just because we feel insecure about losing them we bundle their personal growth and development. and in turn they get frustrated and start to walk away. This again makes us vulnerable and we try to act normally as they want, but inside we are screaming in the midst of our chaos of insecure boundaries. We need them to be with us all the time, but if they let out a little bit of frustration, we go back to normal and try to find new ways to redefine our relationships in a beautiful phase of life.

The good thing is to balance on this seesaw of life depends on both. If one is heavy and the other lacks the weight of loyalty or weighs more in doubt, then it will surely be uneven or worse, the seesaw would break your legs and your heart. Keep in mind that modern culture, modern groups, and the challenges of moving forward will surely require a fair amount of effort to maintain a family or love life. It’s never going to be easy to bring your partner into complete dominance and you overdo their stuff all the time. It’s never going to work. Remember this simple rule that a separate string will break or hurt your fingers. It is better that you gently hold it in your hands and let the winds of truth and loyalty carry you in the right direction of life.