Communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship, however ‘Silent Treatment’ is something that people do without considering the destructive results.

Let’s examine what happens when one is ignored.

Everyone wants and needs to be recognized. Being treated quietly, facing your partner’s back, or being looked directly in the eyes, puts a knife in the deepest part of our soul, the part that needs to connect, the main reason to be in a relationship.

The greatest need of a human being is companionship. The feelings of rejection when faced with silence can create a deep sense of pain that we have to face or ignore. Either way, both people suffer in the short and long term.

Silent treatment is the intentional cause of pain to your partner at the deepest level. It’s just evil and a knife that cuts them both.

There are two emotional reactions we can have when faced with silence. The first is the obvious one, frustration, which can turn into anger. There is nothing more irritating than talking to someone who is ignoring or unresponsive, especially when they are looking directly at you.

Everybody knows it, and that’s what makes it even more infuriating. When one is angry and the other is silent, the anger grows because your pain is giving the silent one even more pleasure. It’s a snowball rolling into an avalanche.

The next stage can go in one of two directions. The explosion of this bomb provokes a rupture or a retaliation of silence. The latter is the most dangerous, because to do that, basically ignoring the silent treatment, requires a total shutdown of your emotions.

When you shut off all your feelings so you don’t feel the infuriating pain, those closed windows and doors in your heart may not reopen for your partner for a long time, if they ever do. Love dies for that person.

It is the only way to deal with the pain of frustration. If you observe yourself when you are subjected to silence, you can feel the pain in your head, in your brain, throughout your body, increasing the need to explode. Or you may feel totally numb.

It could come out in a violent way, making you want to hit something and, dangerously, hit your partner or child. But before you feel awful by that thought, which of course you should, you must bear in mind that a human being is part animal and that when emotions take over, all common sense and “humanity” can be overwhelmed.

Of course, if you are a decent person and feel the need to hit something, you would never hit another person, but that pain must be released or suffocated. Either way, a very bad result.

It is clear, the ‘silent treatment’ guarantees mutual annihilation, in this case, love and emotions are the victims.

Communication is the core of a healthy and loving relationship. Silence is the opposite pole and, as we all know, destruction is much quicker and easier than construction.

Don’t waste your life and your love, and all the time it takes to build love in a childish moment of deliberately excluding the person you love. That guarantees the end, if not today, definitely on time.