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So let me paint the picture: you see a sexy girl in a club, a shopping mall or the tennis club. You develop her guts to talk to her, make her laugh, and somehow manage to get her number. You think to yourself “SWEET! I’m in.”

You end up calling her a couple of days later, like the rulebook suggests… to ask her out. She does not answer. You think, “Hey, she’s probably busy” and try again later that day. You still don’t get an answer. So you call again and finally get an answer. You talk to her expecting things to pick up where you left off and are completely stunned when she starts making excuses as to why she can’t meet with you. She says that she will contact you and never does. You’re left scratching your head, thinking to yourself “Where did it go wrong?”

rule no. Tip #1: Contact her no sooner than 36-48 hours

I know that sounds difficult, right? But you have to stick to these rules. Because when you wait 36-48 hours, you are less likely to appear needy.

I have seen cases where, a few minutes after the date, a text message arrives. Not great. Do you know why? Because you just walked through the whole mystery through the door.

Just make sure when you follow this rule that you don’t wait too long after 48 hours. More than four days and the girl (if she’s interested in you) starts to get upset that you didn’t call her within that “call window” and she assumes you’re not interested.

Rule #2: Send warm-up texts

You know that getting a date is like making a sale. Except that the item you are selling is yourself. So, in other words, you have to look like something she wants to date or buy.

Now, that doesn’t mean being something you’re not. But it does mean that at the moment you operate within certain guidelines until you have internalized all this “game stuff”… so bear with me, okay?

So as part of this, stick to the rule of texting her first before calling her. All girls are comfortable with messages. In fact, we like them better to begin with. Seeing is great for us and it’s great for you too. It means that you can actually think about what you want to write, you don’t have to think on the spot.

Now the main agenda with texting is to heat it up. Let her know that you are on her radar and that you will be in touch with her soon.

If a guy messages us within two days of giving us our number, that’s enough for us to know you’re interested without coming off as really needy and wimpy.

In general, you want messages to be short and sweet. Jokes are always okay, but 10 long messages in 1 is not. Do your best to be the one to end the text conversation. So when you see that the conversation is coming to an end, let her have the last word and don’t text her back.

Some of my friends have a problem with this, because they feel like they are in control by being the ones calling the shots. But you have to look at it from the point of view that YOU are the one in control because you have the strength to stop the message first.

Rule #3: Message to call her on the phone

It’s that simple. If you find that the woman you are interested in is not answering your calls but she texts you, immediately after receiving a text, call her. Chances are she’s right next to her phone and you have to answer it!

Rule #4: keep it light and casual

When you call a woman for the first time, it’s not the best time to engage in a deep and meaningful conversation with her. Actually, you want to keep things fairly informal and brief.

The first thing you want to do when you call the girl is break the ice and make her laugh. Essentially, you want her to go back to the same state she was in when she gave you that phone number. The best way to do this is to refer to something that happened the last time you saw her. Maybe reference a joke you thought was funny with her before and give her updated content. This will bring her back to that place and help her feel more comfortable with you.

That’s the thing about phone calls. You want to be able to establish comfort before you even consider asking her out. If a girl doesn’t believe that she will be comfortable with you or that she won’t be able to trust you, then she won’t even consider going on that date with you.

So remember the rule, keep it light and casual. She breaks the ice and makes him laugh before even considering asking her out.

Rule #5 – Keep it short and sweet

This kind of continuation of the other points. But seriously, don’t talk too much. Like five minutes. As a general rule with all this gaming and dating… Less is always MORE!

You don’t have to get an update on what this girl has been up to in the last two days. She doesn’t have to know about all of her past relationships before they go on a date.

All you have to do is get a girl to… get to know you, like you and trust you and then you can get her to go anywhere and do just about anything with her.

Rule #6 – Leave a voicemail – that’s it!

If you have to leave a voicemail, make sure it’s just one. When courting a girl, you must remember to give her the space to think about you. If you constantly try to get in the way of her space, then she won’t appreciate it at all.

So with voicemail, you have to remember to keep it short and sweet. You don’t have to repeat your number and all that boring stuff. Just leave a short message and then hang up.

So what should you say? Something that prompts her to call you back usually works. It can also be an opportunity for you to challenge him. For example: “Hi Susie. This is John. I just wanted to let you know that I’ve tried and tested your voicemail and it’s working fine. I’d appreciate a thank you phone call.”

So when you call a girl, keep in mind that you might get her voicemail, so know what you’re going to say if this happens. There’s nothing worse than a long, breathless voicemail message with a guy who doesn’t know what she’s talking about, who’s wasting his time and her credit!

Problem solving

• Before you give up try these things first. message first. If the girl texts back, then the chances of her talking to her again are much higher.
• If you text a girl and she doesn’t reply…and this message contained a call to action on her behalf. Then you should know that you are going to have to do a lot of work to get this girl to go on a date with you.
• Persistence isn’t the only tool you need. There is no point in doing the wrong thing over and over again in the hope of a positive result in the end.
• Remember to warm up a girl with you. You can tell a girl has warmed up to you when she laughs at your jokes and the conversation flows.
• When a girl talks easily, it means that she feels comfortable with you. If you find that she is quieter than usual, then something is wrong and she doesn’t feel comfortable, because A = she thinks you’re a freak or B = she hasn’t warmed up to you yet.
• As for what to talk about with her… your main goal is to be cocky, funny, make her laugh, and have a good time.
• Keep it short and sweet and always leave her wanting more.