For most of us, self-confidence cannot really be explained. It’s never easy to fully describe what it’s like to be confident. Self-confidence is a state of being. It’s a bit like being in love: you can’t really explain how you know you are, you just know. You also know that it is a state that you need to acquire if you ever want to succeed in anything worthwhile in life.

Self-confidence begins with confidence. It is trusting in your own abilities, strengths and attributes. It is the ability to take action and succeed. It is also the ability to act and fail without allowing failure to reflect negatively on your own inner identity.

The true essence of self-confidence lies in faith and belief. The belief in your own abilities. It is having a sense of self-worth and feeling no less than anyone else. Self-confidence means that no matter what happens, you know you can handle it. It is really having a sense of self. Be aware that you are fine just the way you are and be aware that those little imperfections that you have are part of who you are. They are part of the unique individual that makes you special.

So what leads to lack of confidence?

Well, each of us has a built-in self-protection mechanism, and although this is very necessary, it can cause untold damage in other areas of our lives. There is a self-protection program that is hardwired into the brain and energy system of all living things. Its function is to protect us. It protects us from dangerous situations by accessing memories and reminding us of previous discomfort!

Let me explain with an example. If you touch a hot coal, you get burned and you know you shouldn’t touch it again: your self-protection mechanism kicks in. If you find a red-hot charcoal in the future, keep your hands and body far enough away so you don’t feel the burning sensation and pain associated with it. Your subconscious mind programs in your brain the fear of getting too close to the coals. This memory, or simply the fear and pain related to it, is immediately evoked and sent to the conscious mind by the subconscious when it senses that you are in danger of burning out. This mechanism, for self-preservation, has protected you from an infant. Unfortunately, it also works against you in many different ways.

Let’s look at one. For example, at some earlier point in your life, you may have tried something that was completely new and foreign to you. You tried and failed! Perhaps your peers, family members, parents, friends, or even complete strangers ridiculed you and laughed at your efforts. This may have embarrassed you and made you feel inadequate. Your subconscious mind stored and filed this information in exactly the same way a computer does and can access it in the same way. These are neural networks in the brain that fire in sequence and send electrical impulses to the body telling it to release certain chemicals (which produce emotional responses). A neural connection is established between the memory of the event and the emotion you felt at the time. When you face a similar circumstance in the future you will have problems. The subconscious mind immediately activates the scheme and the neural network begins to fire. Thus, the subconscious mind reproduces the memory and the original emotions are evoked to protect you! This is done solely so that you don’t feel slighted again.

For example, you may have tried to paint a picture. Your friends around you laughed and ridiculed your efforts. This caused him embarrassment and a feeling of being ostracized as the “strange man”. You lacked the approval of your peers. Like a computer, your subconscious has filed this information away in its memory banks for access at a later date when it thinks you need it. Twenty years later, you still have the desire to paint, but you don’t even go to a night class to learn because the idea of ​​painting triggers emotions of disapproval, shame, and fear. The subconscious mind replays the emotions associated with the old memory, even if it can’t remember the actual event occurring. Actually, you are getting a very clear message from your subconscious mind and it is telling you that if you try to paint again, you will feel all those terrible feelings. It reminds you of showing you the feelings again!”

Usually these emotional memories go back to childhood from when you were most impressionable, but not always. You can encounter such problems just as easily as an adult, and the key to protecting yourself from such negative influences is to develop a better sense of self and boost your confidence. This is the core of all personal development and self-improvement techniques!

In reality, you have no idea what the result will be when you start something new. As an adult, you should be able to try new things without fear of ridicule or condemnation from others affecting your confidence.

Self-confidence is having the ability to feel fear and do it anyway. In reality, you have no idea what the result will be when you perform a task that is new to you. However, with greater self-confidence, you will be more expectant of a desirable result. If you don’t have the result you want, then you are able to look at the situation realistically, determining what you need to learn and develop to be successful or at least be able to accept the fact that you are not right for the activity. without “freaking out” about it.

Many people believe that you are either born confident or not. The truth is, we are all born confident! You demanded what you wanted and let everyone around you know by crying because you believed in your own worth and knew you deserved it. You tried to walk several times while falling knowing that you would eventually make it. This is trust. Unfortunately, this type of trust is usually programmed into us, but it is our NATURAL state. It’s time to get it back.

First of all, you should be kind to yourself. Don’t expect perfection. Do you think Tiger Woods hit a hole in one the first time he played golf? Although he may have been born with an innate ability in the sport, chances are the first time he played he was terrible at it.

What builds your confidence is trying things you haven’t done before. Try to do something that scares you. Those who are self-confident are willing and often eager to try new challenges, not because they are sure of success, but because they are self-confident enough to try. They refuse to give in to their own fears. If there was no fear or uncertainty, there would only be knowledge! Self-confidence is not about being sure of an outcome, it’s about being uncertain but believing in yourself enough to try anyway.

The good news is that there are strategies and approaches you can learn to build your confidence level to a new all-time high. Once you learn them and begin to apply them, you will feel more capable of trying new things and getting into new situations. Then, as you begin to succeed and realize that the world didn’t stop spinning because you faced your fear, you’ll gain more and more confidence.

The best advice I can give you is to use some of the great tools available to build your self-confidence and self-esteem. Hypnosis and emotional release techniques can be invaluable. The personal development industry has a wide variety of products and you need to choose one that resonates with you. However, you have all the power you need to change yourself from the inside out. Make the decision now to face one fear a week and do it. You will build your self-confidence to a level that you cannot even imagine now.