10 reasons that cause you depression and what to do

you are neurotic

In simple terms, you are a worry. In a meeting, you will most likely be alone, lost in your own thoughts, thinking about what you could have said or done in the past year to change your whole situation. You worry about the past, the now, and the future. You probably look at others and try to figure out how they manage to smile. You want to stop thinking, but you don’t know how to do it. When you constantly worry, you continue to complicate problems and still have no solution. Then it becomes an addiction, next thing you know you start questioning people’s thoughts, their responses and then you start questioning your own sanity. You must have heard the saying “worry is useless”, although it is not entirely useless, as it can be okay to worry about problems. Show that you are a thoughtful person and that you are willing to offer solutions. But you have to learn to let go and relax sometimes. Obsessive worrying can lead to depression.

you are a perfectionist

You see that wrinkle in your clothes while ironing and it bothers you so much, until you smooth it out. That stain on the plate bothers you so much you can’t ignore it. You immediately fall out of place if something doesn’t go as planned. You’re probably a do-it-yourself (DIY) type of person, your touch makes it perfect. You love order so much that a second of chaos can leave you distraught. Sometimes you can be too hard on yourself, even on trivial matters. While it can be a good advantage to be pedantic, it can lead to many disappointments, because you continue to raise your expectations of people, food, the environment, and your lifestyle.


Negative thought patterns, more often than not, are behind most people’s depression. It’s hard for you to be optimistic. Immediately a goal is set, you instantly think of a million ways it could go wrong. You might have a good idea, and right when it pops up, you immediately start thinking, ‘no one would buy this’, ‘it’s not good enough’. Can you see the link? Are you neurotic, perfectionist and perhaps pessimistic? Life is fraught with uncertainty and approaching life with such a frame of mind is not only detrimental to the psyche but also to overall well-being. You have to learn to change your train of thought. You can start reaffirming how much you need to be positive immediately when a negative thought arises. Try meditating, take some time to be alone, and try to calm your racing thoughts.


You may feel pressured by work, school, or trying to meet the expectations of your friends and family. You may find it difficult to juggle work, social and family life. The pressure of all that can make you feel lethargic and dispirited. This is what you can do. Form a routine and get used to following whatever routine is established. As humans, we perform optimally when we set a goal of what to do, you can even set a goal for the next minute and make sure you meet it. Properly managing stressors can prevent a lot of mental chatter.


When it comes to making and making decisions, you always beat around the bush. You may be afraid or short-sighted to take that bold step. Every minute of our lives requires us to act, from waking up, taking a bath, doing housework, to the stage where we make important decisions in life. Being indecisive would make you procrastinate a lot, and that could make you feel dissatisfied. This could make it more difficult to get that monkey off your back.


Our minds work in such a way that we would like everything to happen in the blink of an eye. We can be overly anxious about situations at times which, when they take longer than usual to materialize, break us. First you have to understand that everything follows a process. You didn’t start talking in a day. It took you several years to become an adult. Everything happens in stages. Get out of the illusion that things should happen as fast as you want. The universe does not follow your will and you have no power over how events turn out, you only have control over how it affects you. It is said that good things take time. Being patient helps you cope better with uncertainty.

highly sensitive

Are you the type to be easily offended, feel deep emotions, feel uncomfortable in large crowds, and quickly assume that you are being judged? So you can be very sensitive. For very sensitive people, managing depression is more delicate, especially with someone who has suffered trauma. Repressed thoughts of the trauma can cause grievances in the individual. Know that it is okay to let it out, grief is expected, it allows you to heal. Also make sure you get to the root of the trauma, know what is causing your pain. It’s as simple as asking ‘why am I sad?’ or ‘how did I get here?’ Otherwise, you would continually grieve and forget to heal.


Sometimes it is the image of how perfect it should be, where we should be, that causes us pain. As human beings, we are goal-driven and feel fulfilled only when our long-standing dreams are achieved. But sometimes we have and hold very unrealistic expectations and we become bluesy. For example, wanting to have the latest Lamborghini Murciélago, and your income is not even enough to buy a scooter. Then you start sulking about your inability to buy the Lamborghini. You want to cut your coat according to your size and stop longing for things out of reach. Just try to appreciate the little things and be content with what you have.

not spiritual

It is possible that he is not spiritually inclined, since he is tired of waiting for a deity to rescue him in that terrible period of pain. But the belief in a supreme being can be the saving grace in this kind of period. Each individual operates within different belief systems. I dare say that we are nothing without some form of belief. Some find success in believing in a higher being in times of need, and psychologically, it has been shown to be a very helpful coping mechanism for dealing with depression. Reconnect with your spiritual side, light that fire, pray and cheer up again.


Over time, you may have conditioned yourself to be averse to things that make you happy. This could be the result of not wanting to face rejection or disappointment again. So you have adapted well to that shady lifestyle and accepted the sad state as the status quo. Therefore, you do not expect anything to lift your spirits. In fact, you are petrified of being happy. Make a conscious effort to change your thought pattern. If possible, change the environment you live in and the activities you do. Also try as much as possible to remember the good times and reflect on it, remember that you were not always like this. This will help adjust that unhealthy frame of mind and help absorb positive thoughts.

It is also advisable to seek medical help while dealing with depression. You may consider seeing a psychologist and attending therapy sessions. Cognitive behavioral therapy CBT is also a good treatment for depression. Never feel ashamed to seek help. You deserve all the happiness in the world.

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